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We're searching for a home to move into real fast. Hope we get it. Praying....

You just have to do what you have to do ...So enjoy it

I get together with my girl friends and a lot of time the topic revolves around the "atrocities" meted out by their in-laws towards them.

The tone and manner in which they speak perplexes me. Why so much animosity ???

I’m not an expert in this … but I feel most of the girls get into marriage thinking “we’ll soon have him totally for ourselves. No sharing”. And another notion is absolute intolerance towards in-laws.

First … why do wives think they want their husbands only to themselves? Most of you reading this will deny such a thought ever crossed your mind. But it’s a lie. I’m a wife and a mother with in-laws living with me and I don’t see why women should think that way.

Each son has a responsibility towards his parents. As they grow old… they need to be looked after financially and well as emotionally. It’s a responsibility that God has entrusted upon a son .... just as a  mother has the responsibility to look after her son when he is young and in need of her even for basic things like going to the toilet.

It does not stop with the son’s responsibility alone. It extends towards the daughter-in-law too and she too should equally participate in it. That’s the cycle of life.

Tomorrow you too might have a son and when he grows up you too would expect him to look after you and care for you. That’s how it’s a very important cycle of life.

I think this basic thought should be plastered into every young girl’s mind waiting to be married. Then will follow the tolerance to accept your in-laws. Small small issues get escalated. A small comment is sometimes twisted and taken too seriously. Why ?? The same thing said by your own mom or dad would not mean a thing. But the same thing coming from a mom-in-laws mouth would be twisted out of shape. Fights and quarrels break up. Friction follows. The wife fights with her husband. Many husbands support their mothers. Friction between husband and wife follows. Husband is forced to decide between wife and parents …. WHY WHY all that ???!!!

Just a little bit of tolerance, affection and understanding on the wife’s part would make things go so smooth. A lot of issues at home are in the wife’s hands and its upto her whether she makes or breaks it.

I’m not saying all in-laws are angels ill-treated by their daughter-in-laws. They too might make mistakes. But learn to tolerate it with love and understanding and see how things take a better shape.

Always remember …..what goes around comes around. You too might have a son and the same can happen to you.

WOW .. that’s a serious topic from me…J But I had to say it and get it out. Hope it helps someone.

My babies...so beautiful.....but....still........

Just wanted to share my thoughts here. I have two beautiful kids. Last night they were sleeping next to me and I just cuddled up to them, kissed them all over and what a beautiful aroma they had on them. The smell of ur baby (mayb to the mother alone) is heavenly. My kids arent babies exactly. They and 5 and 3 and a half. But I enjoy their innocence every moment of the day. And their blind faith and trust in me to do everything for them makes me feel really nice :-)
OK OK OK .... I know you all must be thinking that I have angels from heaven sitting in my house... :-) ... But all this only when they are asleep.... U should see them when they are awake thru the day .... Solid brats .. but cute brats ....Very very naughty . Every task... to make them go to the toilet, to bathe , to eat, to study, to control and discipline them is a task which uses up quite a few of my calories each day.
But thats the joy of parenting. I scold them, spank them but cuddle and kiss them too.
And I've come to realise that all this is just for a few years. Soon they'll outgrow us, become independent, have their friends to hang out with and we might have to take a back seat. But thats the cycle of life. And we too might start having our own preoccupations.
So lets enjoy it when we have it.
So thats the JOY OF PARENTING :-)
I look at so many couples trying hard for a baby and I thank GOD for giving me this chance. AMEN.

Wheres "feminism" cropping up here ??!!!

I'm a housewife with a family of voracious eaters . And I'll tell you my dilema of the day everyday ... WHAT TO COOK FOR BREAKFAST, LUNCH AND DINNER ????? There might be a lot of people out there who might thing ... is this such an important issue?? But in my house YES. When I got married I was surprised to see my mom-in-law plan and plan for daily meals and I was soooo surprised. But I'm doing the same thing now,
A lot of feminist ladies out there will think why should we women be made to cook and serve and be so engrossed in these mundane task.
But theres a place for everything in the spectre of life.
Atleast thats my opinion. If I make a good meal and my family enjoys it then I'm satisfied. Everyones happy and content. Similarly a mans job is to provide for his family and he has to do the best he can. My husband works hard for the family. And hes happy with that. I'm a software eng. with many years of work exp under my belt.
But thats my thought.
Theres no feminism in this . The lady looks after the home and the man brings in the bread and butter.
Thats what GOD destined and asusual man has altered it.Ofcourse there might be compelling situations where the breadwinner might not be there so the wife might have to earn and not spend enough time at home. But that should be an exception.
Theres a lot of confusion on these issues now-a-days in the society and we have a generation thats all confused and unsure about what to give importance in life. And so many divorces happenening around us could be because of this.
There are so many kids left in the care of ayahs while their mothers go to work. There are so many issues hapenening in that area too. and I dont even want to go there now.
To a certain extent its all greed ... more money ... better liestyle ... better this or better that ... But at the cost of what ???
But we're past the stage of mending and reforming. Things have to take a full circle and get sorted out on their own.
Lets hope for that.