You just have to do what you have to do ...So enjoy it

I get together with my girl friends and a lot of time the topic revolves around the "atrocities" meted out by their in-laws towards them.

The tone and manner in which they speak perplexes me. Why so much animosity ???

I’m not an expert in this … but I feel most of the girls get into marriage thinking “we’ll soon have him totally for ourselves. No sharing”. And another notion is absolute intolerance towards in-laws.

First … why do wives think they want their husbands only to themselves? Most of you reading this will deny such a thought ever crossed your mind. But it’s a lie. I’m a wife and a mother with in-laws living with me and I don’t see why women should think that way.

Each son has a responsibility towards his parents. As they grow old… they need to be looked after financially and well as emotionally. It’s a responsibility that God has entrusted upon a son .... just as a  mother has the responsibility to look after her son when he is young and in need of her even for basic things like going to the toilet.

It does not stop with the son’s responsibility alone. It extends towards the daughter-in-law too and she too should equally participate in it. That’s the cycle of life.

Tomorrow you too might have a son and when he grows up you too would expect him to look after you and care for you. That’s how it’s a very important cycle of life.

I think this basic thought should be plastered into every young girl’s mind waiting to be married. Then will follow the tolerance to accept your in-laws. Small small issues get escalated. A small comment is sometimes twisted and taken too seriously. Why ?? The same thing said by your own mom or dad would not mean a thing. But the same thing coming from a mom-in-laws mouth would be twisted out of shape. Fights and quarrels break up. Friction follows. The wife fights with her husband. Many husbands support their mothers. Friction between husband and wife follows. Husband is forced to decide between wife and parents …. WHY WHY all that ???!!!

Just a little bit of tolerance, affection and understanding on the wife’s part would make things go so smooth. A lot of issues at home are in the wife’s hands and its upto her whether she makes or breaks it.

I’m not saying all in-laws are angels ill-treated by their daughter-in-laws. They too might make mistakes. But learn to tolerate it with love and understanding and see how things take a better shape.

Always remember …..what goes around comes around. You too might have a son and the same can happen to you.

WOW .. that’s a serious topic from me…J But I had to say it and get it out. Hope it helps someone.